Outside Essentials for RJ’s sensitive skin

RJ, bless his heart, has my skin. That “high-yellow” (for lack of- and no interest in finding- a better term) skin that burns easily in the sun and the “sweet” blood that attracts every kind of mosquito and ant in a 15 mile radius. Did you know there have been studies that show that certain blood types do, in fact, attract mosquitos? It’s true. RJ, in addition to being the sweetest kid on earth, must have one of those mosquito-loving blood types.

Side Note: I was always so miserable growing up with all my mosquito bites and scars. My grandpa use to tell me that the mosquitos only messed with me, and not my cousins, because I was the sweetest person in the world and the sweetness ran in my blood. Way to make a girl feel special, right? It takes a special gift to turn a travesty to a honor but, let me tell you, I was honored.

Any ways, my poor, sweet, sweet, RJ has this same problem. After a couple of summers and island trips, I have curated some products that are the best at protecting skin against insect and nature (sun) attacks.


  1. Lavender oil is great for preventing mosquito bites and soothing skin. Apparently, lavender is also known to stop bleeding, act as an antibacterial agent and an anti-inflammatory.
  2. Coconut Oil is, in my non-professional opinion, like a holy oil. Just bath in it, eat it…you get hit in the head with something? coconut oil…..Not really but it’s pretty amazing and it is another antibacterial oil that is great for itchy bits. You can also mix it with the lavender for a preventative method aaaaaand a smell good–RJ still has that perfect baby smell most days (bias mom, here) but the lavender is a strong second best.
  3. Citronella was a life saver during our trip to St. Lucia. We were shining like the sun but the mosquitos kept their distance.
  4. I’m an all around fan of The Honest Company and the sunscreen works.
  5. If a sunburn happens, and with skin like RJ’s it will, aloe vera gel is a soothing, natural way to cool the skin and give relief to an uncomfortable, unhappy baby.


Protective Styles: 004

In my mind, this style was going to be two really high, braided poofs (you all know, I love me some poofs). However, anyone who has a child knows that “plans” do not always, or hardly ever, go accordingly when toddlers are involved. As soon as the comb hit the hair, little miss made it very clear that she was not having it. 

Mom-3, Makenzie- approx. 10,000.


I did a co-wash with Mielle Organics detangling co-wash and it is amazing. It smells so good and, while I roll my eyes when I see the word “detangling” on a bottle, this product really does live up to the name. If you are a woman who grew up as a child with curly/kinky/coily hair and had multiple, unfortunate experiences with combs breaking in your hair then you understand my disbelief of a product that claims to be a detangler. This, however, is not your average product. Even the rat tail come slid through those curls like butter. BUTTER. You know what I mean.

Side Note: I mean, look at those curls and that color!

Anyways, after I realized that little miss wasn’t going to give me the time of day, I decided to do two bantu-knots on top and two-strand twists in the back that could stay in for a few days and would then give her some pretty texture in the back after I untwisted them.


I brushed the hair up to see exactly where I wanted the knots to go….


….then I made my parts.


The entire back side of her head was twisted into two-strand twists while the front was cornrowed in small sections and twisted into a bantu-knot.


And there you have it, folks! Simple and sweet.



Saturday is Hair Day

In my house, every Saturday is “Hair Day”.

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Doesn’t she look excited?

Since this cutie pie and myself are both naturally curly, it is a process to get our tresses, cleaned, combed, moisturized + (if we both have enough energy after allllll of that) styled. Saturday is “Hair Day” because I have to dedicate about 2-3 hours to her hair alone.

After about 2 cups of coffee (& maybe a nap), I start the same 2-3 hour process on my own head.

Anyways, I thought it would be fun to go through the process with you just in case you were wondering where and how to start on natural hair. Side-note: Milly is 2 years old and we have been doing this same regimen for about 4 months now. I wish I had started sooner based on how well her hair is taking to it. My advice is to start a solid natural-hair regimen on your baby as soon as the hair texture starts to change from that baby-silk to hair s/he will have for the rest of her/his life.

Ok–back to it. These are the before pictures so you get a good grasp of what I’m dealing with.

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Scary…I know. But the real question is, Why is she climbing on the couch like that? She was posing before I even came into the room!

Ok–I start with Hairveda’s Vatika Frosting.

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It smells like cake. It is amazing. The consistency is awesome, it goes on smooth…I can’t say enough about this product.

I use this as a pre-poo and leave it to sit in baby’s hair for 30 mins- 1 hour. I section the hair off and work this magic sauce in and then pull all the hair back up into a ponytail.

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I wash this out and go straight into the shampoo phase. I am currently obsessing over this tall bottle of awesome:


This shampoo has lemon and sweet orange oil so the citrus smell is amazing!!Between the Vatika Frosting pre-poo and the Citrus co-wash, your senses will be in total party mode. I follow it up with Shea Moisture’s Grow & Restore Treatment Masque


It gives major moisture which is really important for our hair because it can get real dry, real quick.

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I rinse & while the hair is still wet, I add in a leave in conditioner:


I pretty much love the entire Carol’s Daughters brand. They have something for every hair issue and they always have a great smell & get the job done.

After I comb through all the hair, I add in a moisturizer and seal it with some kind of oil. Right now I am obsessing over Mielle Organics Mint Almond Oil. It is to die for.


FullSizeRender 16.jpgThere was no styling today since this baby girl was completely over the process after sitting under the dryer.

I’ll try my luck with styling in a few hours but we might just be sticking with our “Messy Hair Don’t Care” motto.

pre-poo & co-wash can be found here & here.

dryer can be found here.

Mielle Organics mint almond oil can be found here

Q+F ‘Messy Hair Don’t Care’ is here.

Romper from Duchess & Lion