Makenzie- My Wishes For You Are…

Milly, my love, my wishes for you are endless so, in order to keep this letter to a length that isn’t a chore to read, I will try to be short. Lord knows, I can be long-winded in conversations that are important to me and that personality trait transfers to my writing so forgive me if I don’t live up to the promise of a concise letter.

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I have loved you from the moment I saw your little bean-shaped body on the ultrasound. To be completely honest, I was not planning for another child so soon. I imagined RJ would’ve been out of diapers before you came along. When I found out I was pregnant,  “shock” is the appropriate word to describe how I felt. But when I saw your little bean shape, I was absolutely in love.

When I found out that you were a girl, a whirlwind of concerns, thoughts, questions, vows, etc. ran through my mind. How was I going to raise a strong, intelligent, thoughtful, kind baby girl in a world that consistently undervalues and diminishes women–women of color? How was I going to make sure that your self-worth remained strong enough to overcome the need to “find love” in all the wrong people and places? I’m still figuring it out and, even though I find myself calling your grandmother in tears because you are a hand full (to say the very least) and I am scared that I may not be doing your spirit and willfulness much justice, I think I’m doing ok.

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For you, I wish the world changes just enough to not taint you beyond repair. I wish that, when society tells you that you can’t, my voice will remain in your ear to remind you that society, as a whole, is a small minded idiot and you, absolutely, can do anything.

I wish that you will always love your hair as it grows out of your scalp–that you never feel the pressure to change your unruly curls in a manner that makes the people around you who are unlike you, more comfortable. I wish, for you, that you never feel the burden of making everyone else comfortable in your presence. I wish that you never seek to diminish yourself to fit into groups with people who will never fully understand you. I wish that you never seek to diminish your shine for anyone. ever. SAMSUNG CSC

I wish that love always outweighs hate for you and, at the same time, that you do not fall victim to the idea that everyone is deserving. I hope that you love yourself. I wish that, in making mistakes, you realize how easy it is to go astray and, because of that, you not judge others too harshly.

I wish that you could stay a baby forever and at the same time, grow into a phenomenal women and a genuine person.

I wish, for you, a sharp mind and wild eyes. Take it all in. Notice everything, ignore nothing, and store it away in your mind in a manner that gives you the ability to be no one’s fool and to be able to speak with purpose every time you open your mouth.

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I wish and hope and pray that you will always see me as your mother, your best friend, your confidant and your safe haven. Even if this is not always the case (because, realistically, most teenagers don’t really want to be best friends with their parents) just know that those things are always real. I will always be your mother, your best friend, your confidant and your safe haven. I will always be here for you, even when your preoccupied with the idea that you know better than I do and you can get along without following my advice.

Side Note: You will always know me to be real with you so let me just say, you will never know more than me and your life will go along much smoother if you listen to my advice. But if you want to do your own thing…whatever. I will always be around to help you when things fall through and to look at you with those eyes like, “I told you so. You’re hard-headed like your daddy.” But I will never say the words–because you will already know.

For you, my baby girl, I wish an extraordinary life. I have every reason to believe that this will be so because you are an extraordinary girl. You are the best parts of me and, at the same time, you are karma, reminding me of the headaches I’m sure I gave my own mother and that’s ok.You are everything I every wanted in a daughter.

I love you.

-Mom

It’s Time To Start Dropping Hints|Mom-Worthy Gifts

Mother’s Day is right around the corner. I’m always so wrapped up with my kids, I forget about celebrations that are designed to make me feel special (I got the memo about Mother’s day when I started getting emails for Mother’s Day promotions). With that being said, I decided to web-window shop some items that I wouldn’t, at all, mind getting for Mother’s day. Her are some of my picks.

P.S. I also plan on printing these pictures out and strategically placing them around as not-so-subtle hints for the husband. I suggest you do the same! 😉

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I love a good coffee mug. Especially since I’m almost always in need of a caffeine fix (mostly thanks to my 2 children!) The mug from weestructed is a perfect addition to the pantry; partially because it reminds you of why you’re probably drinking coffee in the first place: raising tiny humans is exhausting. The tote bag also makes it onto the wish list because I’m trying to be more eco-friendly and what better way to communicate your situation at the grocery store than packing two kids and this tote, right?!

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This tank top by Sandi Lake Clothing spoke to me because, well, I’m a Rad Mom. Enough said.

FullSizeRender-5 With a full-time job, 2 kids, a husband (I call him my first baby), and finishing up my last semester of grad-school, I am a card carrying member of #TeamNoSleep. Now, thanks to River Babe Threads, I can also have a shirt to prove membership! And I’m a sucker for a black & white raglan.

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Arrow House is a stockist for these beautiful weekender bags by Ali Luma. Made ethically in Kenya, the production of this bag brings many jobs to Kenya and the proceeds of the bag go back into the community to help the elderly and provide education the children through programs funded by Ali Luma. The bag is a little expensive, yes, but the story and the purpose behind it is worth the price. Read the article on these bags (click the Arrow House link above) if for no other reason than to be reminded of the beauty that is still left in the world. ❤

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Simply put, the Mommy Mailbox is a great way to remind yourself (once a month) that you deserve nice, thoughtful things too. For parents, the focus is always on the little humans so, sometimes, we can forget about ourselves. Mommy Mailbox is a monthly subscription that sends a sweet package to your doorstep. You will never be happier to see your mail-lady.

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Stay Home Club is an emo-recluse-inspired brand that is oh, so cool. You can never go wrong with a good tote.

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I am all about shopping small but a nice designer shoe is always a good choice for mom and how could you not just swoon over this pineapple slide by Tory Burch?! I’m in love.

To all my momma-bears out there: Happy Mother’s Day! Enjoy it! You totally deserve to.